Sunday, January 31, 2010

How to provide feedback as a Priestess

Providing feedback presents challenges if we take that seriously, and do it out of compassion. First, we need to be mindful in how we use our words when providing our insights since what we think may not have any impact on somebody may trigger emotions. A few months ago, I was talking to a co-worker who told me that his boss asked him whether he was the cancer of the team. This figurative speech could be very dangerous if the person has somebody in his or her family who suffers from this illness, or if he ends up having cancer in the future. Is this other person casting a spell on this person? Words are power, and the more careful we are when we use them, the better it is.

Today, I had to provide feedback to a class member on her paper. When I started reading the paper I couldn't help but notice that she had not follow the instructions, and that her writing was not clear or easy to understand. I know the deadline is today and I was afraid if I provide my feedback, that she would take it personally or that she would be offended. It is hard to imagine how people will take other people's opinions on their writing. This fear was based on the fact that last week, I received some feedback from my boss on my writing, and the feedback was not very useful. It felt like she was just being picky and there was nothing constructive to take out of it. Just a lot of red writing on the paper... Not helpful at all. This time, when providing my feedback, I thought I would not do it the way my boss did it to me since it would not be helpful, or productive, but instead, I would do it from my Priestess perspective of love and compassion. I would use words that would guide this person in her journey through this class - Essentials of English Writing; and help her in her future studies.

I was happy to see that her reaction was very positive, and that she was thankful for my feedback. Today, I used my Priestess perspective to help somebody who is not connected to me in my spiritual work, but in my mundane world.


Saturday, January 30, 2010

What should a Priestess do?

Life is a journey, and as every journey, it provides us with options to choose from. The question is how to choose the best option for us, and for me, it comes to the questions "What should a Priestess do?" That is the question that will be part of my life during 2010.

Last year, I noticed that at times, I used to divide my life in different categories. For example, my work role, my school role, my Priestess role, among many other roles I play in my life. In dividing my life in these categories, I couldn't integrate my Priestess self and my spirituality in the way I wanted to do it. For me, spirituality is not something I do once a month on a Full Moon; for me, spirituality is part of my every day life. From the time I wake up till the time I go to bed, Goddess is always with me. That is one of the reasons why I want to live my life based on this question, because I want to be able to choose the best choices that come from spirit.

So, next time, I face a problem - whether spiritual or mundane - I will ask myself "What should a Priestess do?" and make a decision based on my spiritual path as well as following Goddess Wisdom.

I look forward to sharing my journey with all of you as I keep answering this question again and again when faced with choices and challenges in life.