Sunday, January 16, 2011

There are no happy endings...

Today, I was watching the movie Bedtime Stories with my nieces and when Adam Sandler said "there are no happy endings" that phrase really struck me. I started thinking about the meaning of that phrase and it dawn on me that endings and happy usually don't go together. There are just a few endings that bring happiness like finishing school, but the majority of the endings in life are usually connected to sadness. The ending of a relationship, the ending of a life, and many other endings. We usually take endings as bad things, but we usually forget to think that when a door closes another one opens or that we need to make room for new things to happen. Everything is part of a cycle of birth-life-death-rebirth and endings only mean new beginnings. If we can move pass the fear of change, we will start seeing that endings are not as hard or sad as we think they are. They are just opportunities to start again, to change the course, to choose what's better for us. Many times, we take the road of "better as is instead of searching for something better" or "better bad but known than bad unknown..." or something like that, I know there is a saying in English but I can't remember it right now. The point is that we stagnate in a bad situation for fear of the unknown instead of making space for a new beginning, and this new beginning can be happy. Change brings transformation and many times we choose to stay the same to avoid change but in doing so, we prevent growth. Change is part of growing, of evolving, of finding what is really good for us.

As I said before, choice is part of our lives and we choose every day what we want. Whether we choose to stay the same and stagnate, or change and give ourselves a chance for something better is up to us. It's about breaking the fears that bound us to the situations we are right now and letting go of what does not serve us anymore. Many times it is easier to blame others for what is wrong in our lives, but in doing so, we lose our power. It is time to take full responsibility for our lives and be aware of our happiness or sadness. I know there may not be happy endings, but there can definitely be happy new beginnings after one ending so it is up to us whether we make that happen or not. Choice is always ours. Will you focus on no happy endings or will you focus on happy new beginnings? The choice is yours.

Blessings )0(

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