"We are all in the same boat, and that boat is the Titanic, and the Titanic is sinking. We have several choices. We can ignore and deny the impending disaster, and 're-arrange the deck chairs.' We can loudly protest to the captain. Or, we can jump to the party boat that has pulled up alongside." (Steve Bhaeman)
When I read this phrase, I couldn't help but think about the many times I face people who feel like they have no options, they are trapped in their own world and they have no power to decide where to go. These people keep forgetting that we can always choose. We can always decide to take something one way or another. For example, there are two people stuck in traffic because there is an accident and one is calm and relaxed while the other one is stressed out and cursing. What is different from these two people? Why one is screaming while the other one is listening to the radio and waiting patiently? Yes, you can say the one that is not screaming took the medication that day and is heavily sedated, but in reality it all comes to the equation E+R = O (event+response = outcome). We can not change the events in our lives but we can definitely choose our response and that can change the outcome. I learned that equation in a book by Jack Canfield and it has proven to be quite effective. Many times, I don't understand why people feel that life happens to them, that they have no control or no choice and it's hard to believe that we don't have a choice. The problem comes that sometimes we don't know what the best choice is or we choose based on what other people want for us or not our own needs.
Next time you need to choose, think about the equation and remember, you always have a choice and you can decide how to respond to an event. You don't need to act like a victim or feel like everything goes against you but see that there is always a teaching in your experiences and in the future, you'll see the lesson. Just remember to choose and to remember that life does not just happen to you. You have the power to create your own reality. It is time you use it.