The Four Agreements - A Review

During this Mercury Retrograde period, I decided to review the book the Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. The last time I had read this book was a little over three years ago when I was a manager and I was working really hard on internalizing these four agreements. Each agreement contains an essential concept that can change your life. The First Agreement - Be Impecable with your Word - is like a mantra that should be used during Mercury Retrograde periods because we usually misunderstand the messages or get something twisted in the middle. Being impeccable with our word means that we carefully choose our words and comments making sure that the message they convey is the one we want to deliver and not one that comes from anger, from guilt, from resentment, from any other emotion you can think of that can taint your words. The Second Agreement - Don´t Take Anything Personally - is also a great practice to have because most of the time we want to make everything about us. We are walking down the street and somebody looked at us and we make a story in our heads about what that person must have thought. A friend talks to us cold and we think they are upset with us instead of thinking that he or she may be having a bad day himself or herself. The list can go on and on and I am sure you can find many instances when you have taken things personally that had nothing to do with you. Can you think of a time when you were offended by an action that had no connection with you? And even if the person is intending to give you a message that you believe is not true, don´t take it personally. Know that those are the opinions of others and you don´t need to take them in. Just observe and let them go because those don´t belong to you. The Third Agreement - Don´t Make Assumptions - is simple but complicated. Yes! You may think this is an oxymoron because how can something be simple and complicated at the same time? Let me explain my words. It is simple to say I will not make any assumptions from now on but it is so complicated to bring it to life. We walk on this earth making assumptions left and right. He said hi this way so he must be angry. He smile at me so he must like me. She closed the door so she must be pretty upset. Assumptions, assumptions, assumptions!!!!! If we are able to not make any assumptions and just ask the questions and speak from a place of honesty and integrity, the world would be a better place to live in. The last but not least Agreement - Always Do Your Best - is the one that ties all the others together because if we live each day as if it is our last on Earth and we do our best, things would definitely be much different than they are today. We also need to understand that our best one day may be different from our best another day. My best on the days that I am sick are not the same as my best on the days I am feeling full of energy. It is also acceptance of ourselves and love for ourselves that allow us to know that no matter what, we are always trying to do our best. These Four Agreements seem very simple to understand but believe me, they are hard to keep. We are programmed in a world that believes in the book of laws (the rules of society), the judge and the victim. These three items play a major role in preventing us from living these agreements and it takes strength and will to say no to the conditioning and yes to these agreements. These agreements can change your life if you incorporate them in your every day activities. They can allow you to create your own dream instead of living the dream of the planet. You are the creatrix of your own destiny, the captain of your ship, the ruler in your life. Start today and you will not regret it. You will see your life transform in your life and become what you want it to be and not what others want you to be. Many blessings, Lady Carolina )0(